Approach Anxiety

I too have struggled with ways to conquer approach anxiety once and for all...

I've found that approach anxiety is a symptom of something much deeper that's pervasive throughout every aspect of our lives; fear.

We're afraid to raise our hands in class or make a suggestion to our boss at work or tell our friend or relative that they're being a dumbass.

So to expand a bit on the topic at hand - we've spent most of our lives building up a habit of AVOIDANCE. Avoid 'uncomfortable' situations. Avoid 'mistakes'.

Instead, we need to be APPROACHING uncomfortable situations. We need to be APPROACHING learning opportunities.

In order to put ourselves out there like this on a CONSISTENT basis across EVERY domain of our lives, we need to first have a solid sense of self so that we don't have to continually engage in self-doubt like the rest of the avoidant world. However, we must also be open to GROW and LEARN from our experiences.

The reason AA always comes back is because we step out of the club and back into school and work and our apartments and we go right back to avoiding.

I've found that whenever I go a day completely without inhibitions - completely without avoidance, then approaching girls with the same gusto is just an afterthought.