There Are NO Rules

"There is no spoon."

That scene in the Matrix is such a good one. The kid explains it so simply, yet it's still so difficult to grasp. Don't try to bend the spoon, that's impossible. Instead try to realize the underlying truth: there is no spoon.

All of these social rules are completely made up. They don't EXIST.

I got a great question from a guy, here's the Q/A:

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"Hey Confidant, I've been keeping track of your posts man--you truly are an inspiration. I did have a question for you however. You used the apocalypse opener [note: apocalypse opener can be found on rsdnation.com by doing a search] on that girl, but you knew her from before. Do you think it would work on a girl that you *just* met, as in just walked up to?"
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Let me respond to that with a resounding YES.

In fact, the effect would be exponentially more powerful. I did it on the phone with a chick last night that I'd just met and she was ready to come over immediately.

The only times I've ever had seriously hardcore bad reactions (i.e. slap/cussed out) was when I walked up to girls I already KNEW and did outlandish things.

Now, over the course of a couple months I did probably 10 EXTREMELY outlandish off the wall things that would make you shit your pants. NEVER bad reactions until I did it to a couple of girls I knew who also happened to be alpha females.

The thing about girls you already know is that there is PRECEDENCE for behavior, they have certain expectations from you.

To put it another way, you've already got LIMITATIONS with them.

But a girl you've JUST met, there are no limitations, no expectations. YOU set the tone, YOU are the bottom line. It's only as awkward as you make it. If you act like everything is cool, normal, and 'no big deal', she will too. Especially if you're being discrete.

In other words, in a one on one interaction with a girl you just met, there are NO rules.

cheers,
Confidant

p.s. Apocalypse opener is basically just asking them if they want to come back to your place, but I highly suggest heading to RSDNation.com and reading the entire post about it by Ciaran.